Find "peace from the puzzle," in more ways than one. Emotional abuse is an unfair puzzle that can keep you confused, frustrated, and manipulated into pounding a puzzle piece until it somehow fits a picture of happiness (mysteriously shown only on it's 'cover'). To trade these pieces into one peace, awareness has to win. Specifically, we'll need awareness of "the puzzle."
The Puzzle
Emotional abuse is the only riddle with confusion itself as the main character. It depends on it's people staying in the dark, finding comfort in denial, and even blaming themselves! But everyone deserves the bigger picture to see what's really happening to their energy, their motivations, and... the Narcissistic People causing it.
Relationship Signs
Beyond the DSM’s Criteria of a Narcissist, here are some ‘red flags’ specifically from their target's point of view:
Signs of a Narcissist:
You leave their conversations feeling “drained”
They’re allergic to accountability
The main theme is control
They promote your weaknesses
Gossip is their favorite activity
They ignore your boundaries
They copy your characteristics
None of their advice ever helps you
They constantly advertise their judgements
They play the victim
The Riddle
It all starts with a short riddle of The Starving Restaurant which tours the common phrases, stages, and toxic tactics associated with emotional abuse from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. With symbolism included, find yourself and your own situation in this short mystery. And afterwards you can take The Starving Restaurant in a way we call Seen-By-Scene. From definitions, to techniques, to examples, it's ultimately an Instant Replay of you and your own experiences.
This riddle is designed to facilitate answers off these pages, in your own predicaments. It will inform and entertain immediate concerns like:
Am I suffering from emotional abuse?
Am I unknowingly entertaining a Narcissist?
How do I move closer to emotional health?
What can I expect?
The Answer
Finally Outsmart Them & Their Toxic Ways
for emotional abuse recovery.
Experience 10 New Ways to Outsmart Emotional Abuse
The Alpha Puppet
Projection Reversal
The Flying Monkeys' Net
The Gravity Pull
Stone Wall Monopoly
The Roller-coaster Trap
The Invisible Butler
The Cyber Funnel
And more!
The Traits vs. The Narcissist
Tolerating a Narcissist is completely different from merely experiencing narcissistic traits. While the mere traits feel "I'm... too sexy for my shirt," a Narcissist feels "so sexy, they'll hurt" anyone who embarrasses their fragile ego! From appearance, to reputation, to their perspective, this song never stops in the toxic concert of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Over time their ego becomes an unnatural inner bond. So a narcissistic parent's favorite child is their inner child; their real kids exist only to serve the parent's ego. And in the same fashion, a lover to a Narcissist is actually the third wheel. Proof? Where is their energy (not empty words) to fight and nurture, above anything or anyone else? It's a 'twisted design!'
So start The Riddle as your emotional health deserves The Answer
DSM IV recognizes Narcissistic Personality Disorder as:
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
requires excessive admiration
has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
Peace from the Puzzle?
The “puzzle” is a double metaphor for both feeling puzzled and somehow fitting with the puzzle pieces causing it all! There’s a toxic handshake between narcissistic people and emotional abuse. Peace from the Puzzle takes each element ‘piece-by-piece… for peace.’ With our psychologically-animated riddles, we build awareness and advocate for the decisive journey away from narcissistic personalities trying to “make them fit” into their own dysfunctional jigsaw. So they finally find “peace” from the puzzle!
I believe there is a “puzzle” in the way most professionals treat emotional abuse. Many doctors I compare to a Wheel of Fortune contestant, meaning they actually pretend like they cannot solve the puzzle yet. So they keep spinning, to collect more money (from the victim of emotional abuse). Prescriptions for depression, anxiety, and social issues to the victim. But they ignore the narcissistic relationship causing it all.
Peace from the Puzzle is more uniquely devoted to the target of emotional abuse. We’re an affordable resource for the social surgery to cure, rather than the medicine to cope. And we are helping many finally find “peace from the puzzle.”
